Being a parent

There are so many things to learn as being a parent. Not only have to feed, clothes, play with them but also need to learn how to educate them. We as a parents is our responsibility to mould and nurture them so as they grow up they will be strong, resilient, smart, and healthy. Before moulding our kids, I believe we need to filter our behaviour and attitude. Children learns new things by imitating and observing us. 

1) Communication

I strongly believe communication plays an important roles in our  child's life.  Try to always say the right word or phrase to them. For example, instead of saying DON'T tear the paper or CANNOT scribble on the wall. We can rephrase it by saying 'paper is for you to scribble. If you want to tear , you can tear this newspaper. Try to give them options to choose from it.When they have options to choose, this actually help them enhance their problem solving skills and they will also feel they are part of the team.

2) Be flexible but firm

It is alright  for kids to run around in the mud and get messy or crawling on the sandy beach. It is all part of learning. Being to rigid will limit the child ability to explore and learn new things. But, of course when comes to safety and hazard there will be no negotiation.

Kids love options and choice. So, try to give them to choose depends on the situation. For example, it is time to go home after playing in the playground. He does not want to go home and start throwing temper. We can either say " You can choose for another 5 or 10 minutes extra play time, if not we will go home." Try to give them the choice to choose and follow by consequences.  Finally, can end with " the choice is yours, you choose"

3) Spending time together

Spending time with your kids is one of the precious moment that we can't buy.  Family bonding is so important for them especially in their early age. Bringing them to the park, beach, malls and so on will not only makes them happy but also get to cherish one another.

4) Values and moral support

Family values is very important in moulding the child. Without value, the child will be lost. I believe from young age wee need to guide and teach them manners and values. But, before teaching them, we as parents need to also implement it. Actions speak LOUDER than words.  Create your family value and paste it on to the fridge or behind the entrance door.  We, as a family will carry the values and morals support with us wherever we go.

I think this is the four basic parenting skills for now. If you have any suggestions and comments, do feel free to drop in.

Till then, signing out.

Being a full time mum

How do I feel being a full time mum and a housewife?                                                                            

Its been almost  8 months now and I can say I am still adjusting to it after over 10 years of working in the hospitality industry. How do I feel? At times I do feel left out from the working environment , but on the other hand, I am glad that I can focus on doing what I really want to do and most of all I am able to spend time with my loved ones. I know as parents, we can't buy time to see your children grows into adulthood. Every milestones that Jason achieved, I will always get to witnessed it and video record it. It is such a joy to see my little boy comes this far.

The joy and happiness of spending time with Jason is priceless. Everyday, I see Jason grows stronger, healthier and happier. He learns new skills each day such as cooing, rolling over , grabbing his favourite toys,  putting his lips together and trying to say 'mama' and now crawling. How cool is that.

Before being a mum, every mum says this job is a 24/7 around the clock and I totally agree. It is not easy at all. I have to work around his clock and ensure everything is safe for him to play and eat. When I bring him out, I will be having lots of questions back of my mind. "Is he warm enough"?, "will he be hungry after 5pm?' . Everything is all about him and not about me anymore. Now, I understand mother's love.

When comes to shopping, baby sections always makes me happy. Instead of picking my perfect outfit for myself, I will be busy picking clothes and products for Jason. Most parents tell me that "This is now your first child, wait till you get your second and third chid, everything will be passed down." 

Anyway, what have I learned so far being a mum and a housewife?

a)  patience
b)  willing to learn new skills especially in parenting
c)  organise- organise and tidying up the household 
d)  persistence and consistency- I have to be consistence when comes to Jason. For example, feeding, bathing, nap time. This will help him build a routine which will be easier for me.
Since my hubby has paid for the gym membership, I am persistence to keep fit and do more yoga. This is the only time I can leave Jason to the helper, Quennie and I am able to do my own things. What keeps me persistence in going to the gym ?

a) I do not want to waste my hubby's hard earn money by paying for the gym but not using it.

b) I want to look good for myself and for my hubby. If I do not keep fit now, when the second and third child arrives, I will be flabby and wobbly. It is really not flattering and probably will lower my self esteem.

What have I achieved this year?

a) I managed to become a food and beverage Supervisor in Pullman in New Zealand. After all the struggling in career, this is where I am now

b) Being an awesome mum. Get to spend quality time with Jason. I am lucky enough to have a year of maternity leave.

c) Married to a hardworking intelligent man- my hubby. He is the best. I can never find another awesome man like him. He really pushes me to improve myself and to boost up my confident in life.

d) Worked 5 years in Accor New Zealand. I am proud of myself for staying so long in a company.

What I want to achieved for the year 2015?

a) Be the best mum- educating Jason and spending time with him

b) Get fit- Check into the gym at least 3 times a week

c) Improve myself and learn how to accept criticism- Upgrade my skills such as learning Manderine and Cantonese

d) Get a part time job once Jason turns 1+ old. Getting a part time job is not about the money but the ability to learn to speak and read Chinese. 

e) Mingle around with positive people and church friends

f) Learn more on parenthood method and skills such as going to talk shows and read more parenting books. Help out the childcare if possible

g) Learn about investment. I will have to sit down with my mum to talk about investment.


That's all for now. I  need to cook and take a shower before lil Jason wakes up from his beautiful dream.

xoxox
Mel 

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New Journey

It has been 4 years since I have last updated my blog.  This shows I was really busy to actually sit down on a nice comfortable sofa, turn on my laptop and start typing.

Well, what inspired me to start blogging again is because I just got a new macbook air and the keyboard is so nice to tap. I know it sounds weird but I like the clicking sound of it when I type a word. Anyway, moving on with my life journey story...

I have been living in New Zealand for the past 6 years and I am loving it. New Zealand is such a beautiful country with cool fresh air to breathe on everyday compare to Asia country where air  pollution would just suffocate your lungs out. I love New Zealand because of the fresh air, lots of nature scenery and activities to do during the seasons, fresh produce and overall healthy lifestyle. I have been doing lots of self discovery when  I am  there.  Most of all, it's a baby friendly country.

So after a long stay in New Zealand, I am finally married to a wonderful guy and gave birth to a  cute little boy. Well, you got to agree with me that every mum will say their children is  the cutest of them all.

Here is my son,  Jason. He means the world to me. I can't express how much I love him and his cute little cheeks.

There you go. 

I will try to blog more when I can in the future to keep myself and whoever is reading my blog updated. 

Till then, see ya

U2 Concert

Yeay, finally I am able to see the U2 concert and star guest featuring Jay-Z . I'm glad that at least i've got the opportunity to have a quick glance on Beyonce too . It was held at 360 degrees Mt. Smart Stadium, Auckland in New Zealand on 26th of November 2010. The whole concert lasted around 2.30 hours. It was worth watching. It was one hell of experience. I totally enjoyed it
 More pictures will be uploaded in my facebook.




 Wink Wink ;p
Melissa

Cyanide & Happiness #2228 - Explosm.net

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valentine's day dinner

yeay! it's valentine's day! i know valentine's day has passed! sorry, been busy, so i did not update my blog!As usual, always been busy! Anyway, here are some pics i've spend my time with me bestie(Mara)! Melissa who is single..no choice but have to spend time with other girl! lolz! i'm not a lesbian!

We ate at my workplace, The Ibis Hotel -Vivant Restaurant! Since i'm working there, i do have staff discounts! There's one of the privilege working in that hotel!

Anyway, the starter was an oyster with tobasco and lemon juice on top. garnished with corriander!

Entree- Soup (Mara) , Salad (Melissa)

Main Course- Chicken (Mara), Steak ( Melissa)

Dessert- chocolate fudge ,ice-cream

Oops! can't remember the menu! and I'm lazy to re-arrange the pics!

xoxo,

lazy pig melissa!  muaks =p

Happens to me all the time!